And, a coupla other things....
Yeah, we talked.
After my last post, I emailed her and she wrote right back and it went from there.Culminating in a phone call. Learned a LOT. Like... BOTH sides of MANY stories, which even I hafta admit, Rob was NOT famous for doing... telling both sides of any particular story.
(Loved him anyway, though...) I found out quite a lot.
Linda told me things she didn't have to, things that weren't any of my business, except that she wanted me to know, to understand. And...
now I do. And, before anyobdy starts with the "you got suckered in" shit (which we both know to expect now), no, I didn't. I dare say if you, any of you, wanted to open yourself up... if you were sooo completely tired of struggling that you had nothing left but to be open enough to approach her, like I did, and give her a chance, she'd explain it to you, too. Maybe not EVERYBODY, because Lord knows, it's a lot to have to go through time and time and time again and maybe not a few people because they'd only want to know to use it against her somehow or for their own titillation. She'd know that, too. Just like she knew that wasn't my intent by emailing her myself. Went I sent the email, I honestly wasn't sure what to expect back.
I kinda figured if she could deal with that Tessa-person, she'd be able to handle me, but, had it BEEN me in her place, I believe I'd have just written back, "Fuck you, ya twat" and left it at that. She's a better person than me that that wasn't her reaction. I can readily admit that. And... about the "psychos" thing... We decided on that particular word becuase that's what we've been called maaaaaaaaaaany times in the last few days.
(And, I can think of LOTS of people I don't mean that about, as can she, I'm sure. It's a joke, y'all... relax.) ANYway... as always, if anybody has any questions, y'all know where to find my email or you can just say it under here.
But, remember... I can no longer allow just cat-shit mean things to be said. I don't WANT that. I don't want to have to delete comments, but ohhellyeah, I will, if need be. This shit is OVER now.
Let it go.
'Kay? Thank you all s'much. And, now, I'm gonna go eat a hotdog and go to Bike Week.
(Unless, of course, I simply pass out asleep. Fuckin' GAWD, I'm exhausted.)
Comments
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Stevie,
I've not met you. I would've like to, but could not make the memorial service. I have read your site for a good while, and commented occasionally. I'd met Linda, only in April in Austin, the same weekend I finally met Rob. We'd talked a time or two on the phone, but it's not the same. I'll keep it short. I'm glad you all decided to stop the bickerin'.
I don't have anyting against either of you.
I'm just glad you all decided to let Rob rest in peace. Many have said he'd be gigglin' over it. I don't think so. I think he'd have been on the other side of the fence sayin' , "Let it go y'all".
Just my un asked for 2 cents worth...
Best wishes.
'Neck
I've not met you. I would've like to, but could not make the memorial service. I have read your site for a good while, and commented occasionally. I'd met Linda, only in April in Austin, the same weekend I finally met Rob. We'd talked a time or two on the phone, but it's not the same. I'll keep it short. I'm glad you all decided to stop the bickerin'.
I don't have anyting against either of you.
I'm just glad you all decided to let Rob rest in peace. Many have said he'd be gigglin' over it. I don't think so. I think he'd have been on the other side of the fence sayin' , "Let it go y'all".
Just my un asked for 2 cents worth...
Best wishes.
'Neck
Posted by: RedNeck at July 07, 2006 09:58 PM (tSJ8V)
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I am happy you have made peace. However, in the future, I just want you to use this if y'all go fighting again...packs more of a wallop, instead of FOL for friends of Livey...call us Friends of Ol' Livey or FOOL...bwahahahahahaha...I wasn't really "lurking" per se...I just had nothing to add really...but, thanks for taking the time to listen to Livey, she's not just some crazy person who lives alone in the woods....shit...yes she is...but she's a cool crazy person!
Posted by: Kel at July 08, 2006 01:59 AM (OIyM8)
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Stevie, you don't know me. I'm one of those FOOL's of Kel's, there.
But I wanted to tell you this: I think what you did in talking to your friends, and thinking things over, making painful realizations, emailing Livey, and everything that followed...I think that took a lot of courage and grace on both your parts, yes, but maybe especially on yours.
I think you both were trapped in quicksand in different ways. You, though, don't have the recent experience with therapy and such that Livey does. At least, that's what I understand from reading your blog.
That makes it harder to get yourself out of that quicksand and onto firm ground.
You were the one who sent the first email. You got there without the tools that have been helping that damaged, good woman get through the terrible things that were done to her in her childhood, in her past.
I think that's an act of genuine strength and genuine good.
Congratulations.
And thank you.
But I wanted to tell you this: I think what you did in talking to your friends, and thinking things over, making painful realizations, emailing Livey, and everything that followed...I think that took a lot of courage and grace on both your parts, yes, but maybe especially on yours.
I think you both were trapped in quicksand in different ways. You, though, don't have the recent experience with therapy and such that Livey does. At least, that's what I understand from reading your blog.
That makes it harder to get yourself out of that quicksand and onto firm ground.
You were the one who sent the first email. You got there without the tools that have been helping that damaged, good woman get through the terrible things that were done to her in her childhood, in her past.
I think that's an act of genuine strength and genuine good.
Congratulations.
And thank you.
Posted by: k at July 09, 2006 12:10 AM (Ffvoi)
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