1 What she fails to realize is that if anyone wanted to truly ban her, it's fairly easily done. She's not |337 enough to get around my bans, nor is she smart enough to truly hide her tracks.

What I don't understand is why people are still defending her? What more evidence do you clowns out there need? She has been run out of other internet forums for the same type of crap. She ingratiated her way into Rob's life through his long-time friend and then she spent the next 6 months or so stalking him to his grave. She made a complete ASS of herself at his funeral and alienated every family member and friend present. She's trying to use what she believes to be anonymous proxy servers to read websites of the people she hates and leave 'anonymous' comments. When will you people realize exactly how manipulative and delusional this woman is?

I don't give a shit how much she proclaims to be 'letting this all go'. The EVIDENCE is there for anyone with a basic knowledge of email headers, TCP/IP and WHOIS. She has NO intention of letting this go and never did. Think about this, people: why is she going to such great lengths to hide her tracks? Could it be that she has something to hide from EVERYONE (including her supporters)? This is the kind of crap that internet stalkers do EVERY. DAMN. DAY. And it has been going on since BEFORE Rob died. The last time I fixed his site, HE asked ME if I knew of any way we could prevent her from even seeing his site. Unfortunately, I couldn't access the cpanel site manager because he couldn't find his password from his host. Does that sound like the actions of a man who 'loved' Livey? Even a little bit?

I defended her the day after Rob died, gave her the benefit of the doubt and said that no one should try to prevent her from attending Rob's funeral. Despite our differences, I tried to have some compassion for someone that I knew must be hurting. Of course, I was under the mistaken impression that she could conduct herself in an appropriate and respectful manner. Instead, she made a spectacle of herself. I shouldn't be surprised, but I am. But at least I've finally learned that there is NO hope for this woman. It took me a while to learn...but it's not a mistake I will be making again.

How long will it be before the REST of you learn?

If you DON'T want to learn, that's fine. But enough of the bickering already. We ALL need to move on and for many of us, this drama has moved beyond the realm of mildly amusing to downright ridiculous.

2 And Stevie, I was going to apologize for the length of that comment but then I remembered that if ANYONE would understand, you would ;-)

3 Amen Chablis....

4 These three ladies and write, Cat

5 Hi Stevie,

I don't have a dog in this fight - but I've been following along and reading. I did care very much about Rob and I'm horrified - truly horrified - to read about Livey's behavior at his funeral. Either Livey (and I DO NOT know her - or YOU - at all - except through your blogs) has no clue about manners and the appropriate way to behave at such an event - or else she's really lost it. Or something. I'm sorry, Stevie. It's very clear that you cared deeply for Rob. I'm sorry you're going through all of this shit now. Mostly, I don't want Rob's memory to be desecrated. He was an amazing person - and I don't want anything or anybody to try and take that away. You know - some people seem to be hell-bent on making every.single.damn.thing. about any situation about themselves. Again, I may be wrong - because I don't know either you or Livey. But it seems to me that you're trying to preserve and honor Rob's memory. I don't know what to think about Livey's behavior. Peace to you...hope Rob is watching and smiling at you from above. Gotdamn! I miss him and his writing!

6 I have been a close friend of Rob's for many years. I met you at Rob's parents house after the memorial service. I got an e-mail from Livey tonight and I informed her that Rob never loved her and would have been completely irate about the arrogant, self centered persona she displayed. She has been a disruptive force in his life since he met her at Cat's house and I wish she would just go away and let us all get through the grieving process.

7 Willy, thank you for taking the time to clarify that. Maybe hearing it from someone who knew Rob "in real life" will put a stop to some of nonsense.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard this has to be for all of you.

8 Chablis....
Write as long a comment as you want, Sweetie. I was lovin' the length of that one, then you made me laugh out loud with the second one... you know it, too... *grin*

Sandy... thank you.

And, Willy... Oh my God, thank you for coming by.
Hearing from you is a wonderful surprise... I knew who it was the instant I saw the email header where it said "Music and Things"... I remember your front plate... *smile* Soon as I saw that plate on your bumper, I knew who you were. (That's why I was stood there grinning and pointin' at ya... "I know you...")

And, yes, thank you (again) soooo much for saying what you did.
Only thing that matters to me anymore is making sure Rob's memory and dignity are left intact.
The way some people are acting, it's like they think I want to compete with Livey over him or something.
(Wrong. There is no competition there, least of all from me, anyway...)
I think what they don't understand is that I'd stand toe-to-toe with anyone who tried to do this to Rob.
I don't think in anyone else's case, however, that I'd have quite as much self-generated ammunition to use... that woman has been doing this to him for months. Never letting up.
And, now I've got it all, including Rob's responses to her in her own comments and from Gut Rumbles.

There was no question in anyone's mind but her's how he felt about her. I wish that she, above all, HAD accepted the truth from Rob because then she may have spared you and his friends and his family all the insanity she pulled at his service and after... or I'd like to think so, anyway. (Though I will admit to having doubts about that...)

Ya know what we need to do... there oughta be a place, whether it's here (to be moved later) or at Gut Rumbles, where people like you and Cat and Recondo and all those others can tell your stories about Rob, a place where they can all be kept together, safe, for when Sam and Quinton (and anyone else who wants to) are able (Quinton) or want to (Sam) can go and read them and remember the good times.
I don't think there needs to be comments enabled so much, or if there are, maybe moderated or monitored to keep the wingnuts out, but, either way, while all you guys are still around, with all those great stories about Rob, they need to be preserved all in one place somehow for his kids.
I think that may be one of the best ways to honor him, ya know?

Anyway... thanks again for coming by and just know that you're welcome any time and are "safe" here. If anybody even starts to think about giving you any shit, know they will be dealt with with extreme sanction immediately.

9 Rob loved blogging and telling stories to the world it was his release. It is not my cup of tea. I would have to decline passing stories on the internet.

10 Gotcha, I understand.
Still, it might be cool if you and his other close buddies got the funny stories down in some form for the family, or yourselves.
Granted, there's a LOT at Gut Rumbles, but you guys know more, I'm sure, like the two guys who spoke at the service... the good things.

I'm thinking more for his kids than the world at large, but... you know best and Lord knows not a whole lotta people are as comfortable as Rob was telling all that kinda stuff... *lol*

When my Uncle Henry died, a friend of his sent notes to everyone who came to his funeral and asked for a coupla "Henry stories", then had them published in a magazine-sized soft cover "book". That was the coolest thing I've ever taken part in as far as a "tribute" to someone and I had the idea that doing the same kinda thing for Rob would be awesome. That's where I got the idea...
But, seeing as to how Uncle Henry's "book" wasn't longer than a Stephen King novel, I'm sure there were some who declined... no harm, no foul. Just a thought is all...

At any rate, I'm glad to hear from you in any medium. You are always welcome here, Willy. I'm honored by it.

Take care and if there's ever anything you need... just let me know.

11 Thank you Willy for sharing that. I know it must have been difficult since you seem to be a very private person. Hopefully this will put it into context for people and we can move on into remembering the good things about Rob's life.

I still can't believe he's gone. I keep waking up and wanting to click on GR to see if he wrote anything while I was sleeping....

12 Did I miss something??? What did Livey do at the memorial service?

13 Nevermind! I'm new to this site, so I just read old posts.

14 Yeah, I thought ya might find it.
I was just gonna leave you a comment pointing you to the posts when I got your last comment/email.